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Is your child driving you crazy or is simply annoying?

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The Apple Tree Learning Centers The Apple Tree Learning Centers shares their “6 annoying things your child might be doing that are actually good for them.”

Teachers here at our child care center experience these things with your child as well. Children spend most of their time here with us at the center. Our goal is to have parents and teachers work together to keep these “annoying things” under control.
1. Having temper tantrums
“After ignored attempts to call my 3-year-old to come back home, I scooped her up to bring her back home. Immediately she started having a huge tantrum saying, ‘no, Mommy, don’t hit me!’ All the neighbors were out, I was mortified!” Award-winning psychotherapist Jude Bijou, M.A., M.F.T. says to keep your cool for the sake of your child’s emotional health. “When toddlers have meltdowns. The best thing parents can do is to allow the child do it — safely. Anger, sadness and fear will pass, and calm restored.”
2. Crying easily
“Research shows that crying reduces the level of stress hormones in the body. Crying allows kids to resolve and self-heal their physical, emotional and psychological hurts and losses.”
3. Acting scared
What if your youngster is faking the fright? For genuine fears, Bijou advises that you validate their fear. “Fear is normal and healthy. Letting kids express their fear helps them stay present, rather than feeling anxious, overwhelmed and ashamed of being weak.”
4. Dillydallying
“Children have to learn how family schedules operate and how to gain mastery over new skills — and that takes time. Moving like molasses can also be a child’s way of expressing his or her discomfort with transitions.” Giving him extra time, Bijou explains, “will honor his individuality and help him adjust at his own pace.”
5. Saying ‘no!’
‘No’ may be every child’s favorite word to say — and a parent’s least favorite word to hear — especially in public. However, “When a child stomps his feet and yells ‘No, I won’t do it!’ he’s expressing a spontaneous emotion,” educates Bijou. “It’s as essential that children are allowed to assert themselves as it is for adults to do this. Help him find a safe place at an appropriate time and let him do that.”
6. Whining
Bijou imparts that pleading and whining are all part of learning boundaries. “What they’re doing is important. They’re learning to test limits — theirs and yours — and they’re working hard to negotiate their side and be heard. It’s important that children feel their position is taken into consideration, so listen a bit to understand and validate them.”
While these annoying things kids do can drive you to the brink of insanity, this fresh perspective on these trying moments will hopefully help you get through the tantrums and the whiny kid phase — at least until the teenage years hit.